When are we strongest? Is it at the beginning of the marathon when we’re pumped and ready to go, or at the end when we are exhausted, victorious, and feeling the passing of that experience? On your journey to leadership, are you Warrior Strong?
A couple months ago I had an amazing experience at Profit Con. (This is the annual conference of the Profit First Professionals. If you haven’t heard of us, definitely check out how we can help your business go from surviving to thriving. Several of our contributors here on Between Wall and Main are members.) At Profit Con there were several amazing speakers, and one in particular really helped to point out where my major growth areas were and helped me start to move past them. He showed me what it means to be Warrior Strong.
Mike Agugliaro did an amazing presentation on leadership. If you have never heard of Mike, be sure to look him up at CEOwarrior.com. The work he does with entrepreneurial leaders is amazing.
In Mike’s presentation at Profit Con he talked about how each of us serve in leadership roles. We lead for our clients, our teams at work, our communities, our families, and in every facet of our lives. Unfortunately, most of us don’t see the leader in ourselves, and we create emotional roadblocks that hold back our full potential. Some of these roadblocks masquerade as “values” that are actually limiting beliefs. This is why Mike began his presentation by asking us to write down the words, “What if what I’m telling myself is not true?”
Do that right now. It’s amazingly liberating. Sometimes just admitting that we might be wrong opens up worlds of new potentials for growth and discovery. Do you want to stick with the fable you have gotten used to telling yourself, or do you want to pursue the truth? Sometimes the truth demands that we grow and change. Sometimes change is uncomfortable. Do you think that the caterpillar is “comfortable” as it’s fighting it’s way out of the chrysalis?
Mike said that to be Warrior Strong, “It’s better to tell a hurtful truth than a comforting lie.”
Are you ready for a hurtful truth? Ready or not, here they come. Here are a few for you:
- You are a leader.
- People want you.
- The only thing holding you back is you.
Why are these hurtful truths?
They are hurtful because we are often so afraid that they might not be true that we self-sabotage them on a regular basis. We are so attached to our belief of them that we don’t actually know them. If you want to be Warrior Strong, you need to know, not just believe.
Most of us learned at a very young age that we needed to sit down, shut up, and not be too (insert your personal adjective here). Have you ever stopped to think that maybe the people telling us those things were wrong? Maybe that was their insecurity overflowing onto our impressionable youth? Now that we’re all grown up, are our leadership boundaries where we need them to be, or are those boundaries where everyone else said they should be?
The Journey Begins
Over the last handful of years I have started doing a lot more writing and public speaking. People tell me that they look up to me and that I inspire them. They tell me that I’m a natural. They tell me that all of this comes easy to me. Never compare your insides to someone else’s outsides.
Up until I saw Mike’s presentation at Profit Con, my leadership boundaries were screwed. I didn’t know which way was up, much less the “right” thing to do in any given situation. I had managed to remove the word “should” from my vocabulary when speaking with other people, but I had not figured out how to stop second guessing EVERYTHING I did. My head was spinning with self judgement.
The people who look up to me can’t see what’s going on in my head. Not unless I write an article about it, anyway.
When the experiences in our lives make us feel weak, is it because we have decided that we are weak, or is it because we are exhausted after a long, hard run that makes us stronger tomorrow? The answer is a simple matter of choice, and we make that choice every day. When we fall, we get back up. Maybe not right away, but now is always the time to choose to do it.
Mike showed me that I have some serious work to do, and he showed me that I am up to the challenge. I invite you to join me on this marathon. Together we will emerge victorious, and we will be looking for ways to do it all again.
This is the first in a series of articles about leadership boundaries, limiting beliefs, and transformation. If one really awkward little girl can become someone that others look up to, that means that anyone can. Perhaps you will find something in my story that resonates with you and can help you get to the next step in your journey. Dive in, and stick with us. You’ll be glad you did.
One thing is for sure: You don’t want to miss the end. That is where the miracles, revelations, and action steps are hiding. In between, we are going deep. I’m giving you a solid look behind the curtain of this leader’s psyche so you can really see how I tick. It’s the sort of juicy, embarrassing stuff we are all terrified of people gossiping about. I care WAY too much about what everyone else might think. The fastest way for me to stop carrying that around with me is to post it on the bloody internet for all to see.
It’s time for me to be me, Warrior Strong. I invite you to come along. Click here for the next level.