The company you keep influences your personality dramatically. Who do you want to be?
“You are an average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn
If the people you spend the most time with are an influence on the person you are likely to become, do you surround yourself with the people you want to emulate? I’m going to begin by stipulating that some of us have young kids. For this discussion, let’s just focus on our businesses. With that in mind, who is on your top 5 list in your business? How do these people affect your personality?
For me, this definitely includes my two awesome business partners, Vanessa and Maretta, as well as my fantastic husband, Jeffrey. The last two spots on my list rotate frequently, and I think that works in my advantage and my personality grows and evolves.
I recently attended ProfitCon, a fantastic professional education conference filled with forward-thinking entrepreneurs and other Profit First Professionals. As I experienced leaps and bounds of personal growth over a matter of a few days, I realized that it had just as much to do with the people around me as it did with the educational content.
When we surround ourselves with the people we look up to, we become the people we look up to.
Often my top 5 gets filled out by client relationships, and over the last year we have been working hard to focus on clients that are the best fit for us. Sometimes I find myself spending a lot of time with accounting colleagues who look up to me and want advice on how to take their practices to the next level. As a result, we help to influence and shape each other.
Recently, I have been spending a lot more time with other coaches, public speakers, authors, and thought leaders. My personality has been evolving quickly under their influence, and these are welcome change for me. Sometimes these interactions are in person, and often they are in the webinars I attend, blogs and articles I follow, and the books that I read. Choosing my company is making a big difference on the person I am becoming, and how quickly I am changing.
Is it time for a Personality Makeover?
Think about your heroes. Is there someone you want to be like? What qualities do they have that you would like to emulate? What are they doing that you would like to achieve? Who do they spend their time with? How can you become one of those people?
Then think about the people who drag you down. Are there people around you that have a negative effect on you? Does someone on your close team frustrate you, not follow through, or have a poor outlook? What can you do to minimize their impact on you?
“Never compare your insides to somebody else’s outsides.” – Michael Palmer
It’s all too easy to doubt ourselves, and it can be difficult to get out of our own way sometimes. When choosing our company it’s important to remember that our heroes are human. They have good days and bad days, and they experience success and failure. We all feel lonely, have doubts and fears, and we all make mistakes. We are our heroes.
Nonetheless, it can feel intimidating to approach the people that we look up to for guidance because we allow our doubts to get in the way. We put them on a pedestal, and convince ourselves that they are above us. We measure our doubts against their successes, and we cut ourselves down as a result.
Guess what… Our heroes have heroes, too.
Take a look around you. Are you someone’s hero? If yes, who? If not, why not?
One of my favorite moments to create is the moment when a hero becomes a colleague.
I love finding ways to collaborate with the people I admire. The amazing thing is the number of times I find out that they like my work, too. It’s like finding out years later that the kid you had a crush on in grade school liked you, also. We told ourselves that they were so cool and popular, and we thought that there is no way. When we’re older those perceived ranks dissolve, and we create new ones in our minds. No one is better than anyone else. It’s simply up to us to decide who we want to be, and surround ourselves with our future selves.