Letting go of control (Part 1 of 2)

Letting go of control

Letting go of control is huge

for anyone but especially for a solopreneur.  I’ve picked up on a lot of social media buzz lately that business owners are finding it difficult to set aside time to get administrative tasks done in their businesses.  I sure can sympathize with where they are coming from.  Every day there is a myriad of tasks spread out before us that include:

  • Email
  • Schedules & Calendars
  • Client or customer interaction
  • Bookkeeping
  • Taking time to learn new programs or apps
  • Continuing education
  • Networking
  • Marketing
  • Social media management
  • The actual “meat” of your business (what you do / why you’re in business)

This is just a small partial list.  Everyone who owns their own business knows that the list is endless and can change at the drop of a hat.  Are you one of those that are busy working “in” your business instead of “on” it?  As Laurie O’Neil wrote about in her August 23, 2016 “Mistakes Are Proof That You’re Trying” article, are you too caught up in the day-to-day activities of your business and forgetting about your business goals?   Here is where the focus shifts for those that are looking to build their business vs. those that choose to remain stagnant.

If you are, for example, a financial adviser, and would like to demo some timesaving applications that will benefit your client, are you the best person for the job?  Sure, you know what a client is looking for but you don’t necessarily have the time to do the footwork to get them there.  That’s where growing your business comes in.

Growing your business means moving it forward.  With that comes two big issues:

  1. Offering your clients more choices without sacrificing your personal (non-work) time.  That is not possible without some assistance (or another 12 hours in a 24-hour day!)
  2. Not able to let go? Letting go of control is difficult.  Most people that struggle with this have an obsession of controlling pretty much everything in their life, not just in their business.  They want to be sure that everything is perfect, to their specifications, and the root causes of that control go much deeper than that.  Fear, lack of trust, and even unworthiness is part of it.
  • Fear of the unknown.  Perhaps you worry that things won’t turn out perfect.  Maybe you worry about what will happen when and if they don’t.  You worry about a lot of things.
  • Lack of trust in other people and situations. You are scared to trust someone other than yourself to get the job done.
  • Unworthiness is the fact that you feel you are not deserving of help or support.

The biggest thing to realize about being controlling is that it affects a lot such as:

  • Stress vs. Peace
  • Unimaginative vs. Creativity
  • No Energy vs. High Energy
  • Connection with yourself and others
  • Struggle vs. Ease
  • No Time vs. Time

Next week

I’ll talk about things you can do to zap that control and get your business headed in the direction of growth.  Until then, think about situations you have trouble letting go of control and alternative ways you could handle them.

 

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